Review: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living(by Dale Carnergie)

Inspiring girlfriend
Inspiring girlfriend

“Every books I have read is related to my personality”.

It was very coincident of having this book with me. A moment I walked on the aisle of bookshelf, its big title caught my eyes. I stopped for a while to scan through it. Afterwards, I was reading the name of author. It was written ” Dale Carnegie”. I was familiar with his name previously, since my friend bought his book from Indonesia and suggested everyone should own it. Then I decided to buy it. I bought the original one too, and the price is cheaper than my friend’s book. Hahaha, he was jealous me a lot, but it was his privilege to own before everyone.

Linking to the previous article, I have mentioned that I was in depression when my first love has been rejected. I am not going to detail how we both break up. During the depression, I always brought this book “How to stop worrying and start living” with me everyday and everywhere.

In this article, I supposed that the terms “Depression” and “Worry” were close to each other. However, psychologically, these two are completely different. Somehow, they are inter-related.

I read every single page thoroughly. Every single words and antidotes in this book has blown me away. The more I pay much attention to his descriptions, I more my depression has been fade out.

The author of this book, Mr. Dale Carnergies mentioned book that his book did not provide any new rules to stop worrying. He gave simple advises which everyone knows it but never practice it.

In his books “How to stop worrying and start living”, Dale Carnergie provided a guideline to get most out of this book. I would not describe it. I want you to discover by yourself. It is worthy.

From one chapter to one chapter, I’ve found simple ways to stop worrying or depression. If the chapter is not applicable to me, I’ve just scanned through it. Almost all chapter is applicable to me. It provides tricks which i can see myself from apart from the problems. It is called “solution”.​ This rule is called “If you have a lemon, make a lemonade”.

Applying this rule, I have turn the breaking up of relationship into an inspiring tool. During that time i have spent a lot time for reading, reading reading and buying books. When I spent time reading, even in a very depressed situation, sooner that feeling faded away.

“Keep myself busy” is a very easy rule to apply. It is effective to reduce worry. When you keep yourself busy, you have no time to think useless issues. I believe in it. That is why I tried to make some appointments with my friend to have a talk. I went to bookstore. I went jogging. I was reading book. I was cooking etc. I was writing or blogging. Those activities really helped me to forget I what i was worried about.

“Write down what makes you worry” is little bit hard for those who does not like writing. This way will help you to realize what make you worry.

“Tell your worries to God” It is a little religious. But I believe in it. When you tell your worry to the one your trust and tell it out loud, you will find yourself heal. I usually go to pagoda. I bring flowers, incenses, candles to dedicate to Buddha. I told my story to Buddha. I did not think he could hear what i was telling him, but I feel relief. That is it.

There are many great theories left. These four rules are applicable to me and help me a lot.

I’ve shared you how this book benefit to me. It is a highly recommended book. Form your habit of reading now. It might not be useful when you are reading, but in the future, it exactly be helpful.

“Tension is a habit. Relaxing is a habit. And bad habit can be broken, good habits formed”

 

Reading is not my habit, but book is my girlfriend

My Girlfriend
My Girlfriend

I know that is quite embarrassing to put this letter publicly. However, you have fed my brain for three years already. You keep feeding normally. Don’t be angry me, as I change girlfriend quite often. You always said to me don’t leave me alone, but after three weeks of finishing reading all your pages I always find the new one. And they said the same words as you “Don’t leave alone”.

I never leave you behind. I always keep you on neat shelf where I can see you every single day and night. When I was fed by your every single words, I feel like I am in anther world.

When I read media girl friend, somehow I am in a media world. Being with psychology girl friends, I’ve trained my brain like a psychologist. You all feed me differently, i really appreciate it. You’ve made me become a new person. In the last ten years, my English teacher who was very famous and handsome at that time said that “Open whatever book, Open a whole new world”. That is why I always  find a best selling new girl friends from New York Time, Wall street, National Best Selling etc.

I used to have great experience with one girl friend who help to recover my depress when, I exact first love was rejected. Here she is. Her name is “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”. She is very old. She was born in 1985.

Inspiring girlfriend
Inspiring girlfriend

When I was in a deep depression during August, September and October, I found a very inspiring girl friend.  Her name is “How to stop worrying and start living”. Her daddy is Mr. Dale Canergies. I always consulted with her day and night for the whole three months period. She gave me some inspiring tips. “If you have a lemon, make a lemonade”, “Keep yourself busy”, ” Share your depression with god”, etc. Sooner after being heal, I suggest to one of my friend who face the same situation as me. The great result has been shown off at that time. My friend and her well got along with each other.

I suggest you should find boyfriends and girlfriends and keep them in bag or anywhere that could find him or her easily. The more you are with your boyfriends or girlfriends, the more you understand the world.

 

 

9.December…UN’s International Anti-Corruption Day

When I came to office at 8.15 a.m., I usually pick up a newspaper at newspaper box which was installed next to entrance of my office. I’ve noticed an article of Phnom Penh Post written about 5 firms signed to Anti Corruption Unit. I felt “wow”. It is a good move toward anti-corruption.

My Australian colleague who have just sent a e-newsletter to members of our organization, said that today we should have something special to post on our pages both Twitter and Facebook. I looked at her with a curious face and inquired her “is there any remarkable events for today?”. She shaked her head and ask me to take a look at Twitter. It was written ” Today is the UN’s International Anti-Corruption Day! We can ALL do our part to help create a fairer society”.

Corruption happens everywhere. According to corruption index which was published by Transparency International, there is no corruption free country on earth. However, some countries was performing better that could reach the maximum standard. For instance, Denmark , New Zealand peak up for almost the the maximum standard. They both got 92 and 90. It is about reach 100 the best score.

Looking to Cambodia, I’ve seen a very slow progress to deal with corruptions issue in Cambodia. However, the Anti-Corruption Unit was established, Anti-Corruption law was adopted and the Transparency International Cambodia(ITC) who fight against corruption was established too. It is a light to fight with uniform thief. Previously we were in darkness of corruption. Time and actions had taken against this social cancer given a slight light of solution.

I have a dream and my dream is to see Cambodia is corruption free country.

2014 in review: The four big moments in our extractive industries

Four Big Issues of Extractive Industries in Cambodia!
It is a must read article about the oil gas mining issues that happened in Cambodia for the year of 2014. Your concerns and active participation will help to improve the transparency in EI sector.

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Another year is nearly done and dusted!

As 2014 draws to a close, the team here at CRRT has reflected on the biggest moments in Cambodia’s extractive industries for the year. These events varied from positive change to backward steps – but they all had a big effect on the Cambodian people.

Without further ado, here are our choices for the biggest moments in the Cambodian oil, gas and mining world in 2014 – what are your picks?

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ពេលសំរាកពីការងារលោកពាវក៏ឆ្លៀតបើកមើលអាសៀវភៅមុខ ហ្នឹងបន្តិច ដើម្បីអោយគេបានដឹងថារស់ក្នុងសម័យព័ត៌មានដែរ។ ពេលកំពុងមើល ក៏ទាញកណ្តុរឡើងលើផង ចុះក្រោមផង។ ប៉ៃ! មើលបានបន្តិចឃើញបុរសម្នាក់សរសេរក្នុងស្ថានភាព(status)របស់ខ្លួន ថាម៉ែឪអត់អោយការដោយសារតែខែឆ្នាំខុសគ្នា។ សំលេង “ប៉ិក ប៉ិក ប៉ិក”បានលឺបន្លឺដោយសារតែការចុចកណ្តុរ។ លោកពាវ  បានទាញកណ្តុរ ឡើងលើ ចុះក្រោម សារចុះ សារឡើង ហើយភ្នែកគាត់មិនហ៊ានព្រិចទេ។ ប្រហែលជាលោកពាវ គាត់អាងវ៉ែនតាដែលមានកញ្ចក់ដ៏ក្រាស់ដូចគូថដប និងដងព័ណ៌សរបស់គាត់ហើយមើលទៅ។ មើលចុះមើលឡើង គាត់បានឃើញស្ថានភាព(status) របស់ស្រ្តីម្នាក់បានអូតពីអនាគតប្តីរបស់គាត់។ អ្នកខ្លះ បានអួតបង្ហាញពីកូនដែលមាននៅពេលអនាគត, អ្នកខ្លះបង្ហាញពីទីកន្លែងរៀបការនាពេលអនាគត។ គឺថាមានសព្វគ្រប់បែបយ៉ាង។

មើលរួចហើយ លោកពាវក៏ដោះវ៉ែនតាដ៏ក្រាស់គាត់ចេញ។ គាត់យកដៃឆ្វេងដែលមានក្រដាស់ទន់យកមកជូនភ្នែកគាត់។ មើលទៅគាត់ប្រហែលជាក្រហាយភ្នែកខ្លាំង។ ហាហាហា រឿងអីដែលគាត់មិនក្រហាយភ្នែកបើ មើលមុខសៀវភៅអត់ព្រេចភ្នែកផង។

គាត់គ្រវីក្បាលតិច ហើយ ញញឹមតិចទៅកាន់Computer ហើយក៏និយាយខ្សឹបថា ឧ៌ណ*! សម័យនេះចង់ទាយ ហ៊ុងស៊ុយ ក៏ស្រួល, ចង់ទាយពីចិត្តគូរស្នេហ៍ក៏ស្រួល, ចង់ទាយពី អីបានហ្នឹង។ បើមុខសៀវភៅស្រួលម្លឹងៗ មិនចាំបាច់ទៅធ្វើអីទេ, អង្គុយមើលវា ដោយមិនចាំបាច់ស៊ីបាយក៏ឆ្អែតដែរ។ ជួនកាលឆ្អែតដោយសារតែការចែករំលែកព័ត៌មាន គ្រោះថ្នាក់ចរាចរណ៍​ដែលពោរពេញដោយឈាម រូបភាពយុវជនដែលបង្ហោះរូបភាពស្រើបស្រាល រូបភាពកុមារដែលគេរំលោភបំពានដោយគ្មានការបិទបាំង។ ពិតជាធ្វើអោយលោកពាវ វិលមុខមែន។

បន្ទាប់ពីលោកពាវ បានមើលសៀវមុខបានប្រហែល១៥នាទី គាត់ទទួលបានព័ត៌មានដ៏ច្រើនមហិមា ទាំងព័ត៌មានធ្វើគាត់ឆ្អែតបាយថ្ងៃត្រង់របស់គាត់ ,ព័ត៌មានដែលធ្វើអោយគាត់ឃ្លានបាយថ្ងៃត្រង់របស់គាត់ ព័ត៌មានជាប្រយោជន៍ និងព័ត៌មានគ្មានន័យ។

លោកពាវ ក៏យកជើងរុញកៅអីដែលមានកង់បួនរបស់គាត់ថយក្រោយបន្តិច ហើយក៏យកដៃឆ្វេងរបស់គាត់មកតំរឹមវ៉ែនតារបស់គាត់អោយមកលើខ្ទង់ច្រមុះបន្តិចដើម្បីអោយងាយស្រូលមើល។ គាត់បានងើបក្រែសចេញពីកៅអីរបស់គាត់ ហើយយកដៃទប់មុខរបស់គាត់ឡើងជាប់ ដើម្បីកុំមុខគាត់វិល បន្ទាប់ពីព័ត៌មានបានចាកចេញពីពិភពព័ត៌មានរបស់មុខសៀវភៅ៕

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