អាកូស (អ៊ុយលីសវិលវិញ)

រឿងអ៊ុយលីសវិលវិញ បកប្រែសម្រួលដោយ ទត់ ពុទ្រី និងបោះពុម្ភនៅឆ្នាំ ២០០៤
រឿងអ៊ុយលីសវិលវិញ បកប្រែសម្រួលដោយ ទត់ ពុទ្រី និងបោះពុម្ភនៅឆ្នាំ ២០០៤

ខ្ញុំបានចំនាយពេលរយៈពីរយប់ (បើគិតជាម៉ោងប្រហែលជា១០ម៉ោង) ដើម្បីអានរឿង អ៊ុយលីសវិលវិញ។ រឿងនេះគឺជារឿងរបៀបផ្សងព្រេង របស់តួអង្គអ៊ុយលីសដែលជាតួអង្គមេទ័ពដ៏អង់អាច។ អ៊ុយលីសបានប្រយុទ្ធជាមនុស្សផង យក្សផង អាទិទេពផង ខ្មោចបិសាចផង ទេពអប្សរផងធ្វើយ៉ាងណាអោយតែបានត្រលប់ទៅដល់កោះអ៊ីតាកដែលជាដែនដីកំនើតរបស់ខ្លួនវិញ។ បន្ទាប់ពីច្បាំងឈ្នះក្រុងត្រ័រ និងនាំយកនាងហេលេនមកប្រគល់ជូនស្តេចត្រាមេឡេណាសនៃក្រុងឡាដេសេមន អ៊ុយលីសបានវង្វេងតែលតោលលើសមុទ្រប្រហែលជាជិតម្ភៃឆ្នាំទម្រាំបានមកកោះដល់អ៊ីតាក និងជួបជាមួយពេនេឡុបដែលជាភរិយា និងកូនរបស់គាត់តេឡាម៉ាក។

ដំនើរជិវិតរបស់គាត់ជិតម្ភៃឆ្នាំនៅសមុទ្រ ពិតជាប្រឈមមុខគ្រប់បែបយ៉ាង។ អ៊ុយលីសមានទេព្តាមួយអង្គឈ្មោះអាតេណា ដែលជាកូនស្រីសំណព្វរបស់អាទិទេពស្ហឹសដែលជាអាទិទេពគ្រប់គ្រងអ្វីៗទាំងអស់ តាមថែរក្សា។ បើទោះបីជាអ៊ុយលីសតែងតែងមានទេព្តាអាតេណាតាមជួយក៏ដោយគាត់មិនដែលរំពឹងអ្វីពីអាទិទេពនោះ។ គាត់ជឿជាក់ទៅភាពអង់អាច មុះមុត និងការមិនបោះបង់របស់គាត់។

បើទោះបីជាសាច់រឿងមានភាពប្រទាក់ក្រឡាគ្នាជាមួយអាទិទេព ខ្មោចព្រាយបីសាច នឹងការប្រយុទ្ធដ៏អស្ចារ្យរបស់អ៊ុយលីសជាមួយតួអង្គយក្ស ក៏ខ្ញុំចាប់អារម្មណ៍ជាងគេគឺភាពស្មោះត្រង់របស់អាកូសដែលសត្វឆ្កែសម្លាញ់មួយក្បាល និងក៏ជាមិត្តភក្តិរបស់អ៊ុយលីសផង។

កាលពីម្ភៃឆ្នាំមុនអ៊ុយលីសចេញធ្វើសង្រ្គាមនៅត្រ័រ កូសគ្រាន់តែកូនឆ្កែមួយរបស់អ៊ុយលីសដែលតែងដើរតាមអ៊ុយលីសទៅប្រម៉ាញ់ជាញឹកញយនៅលើដែនដីអ៊ីតាក។  ចាប់តាំងពីអ៊ុយលីសចេញទៅសង្រ្គាម អាកូសវាចាប់ផ្តើមមានអារម្មណ៍ថាបាត់បង់អ្វីម្យ៉ាង។ នៅរយៈពេលប៉ុន្មានឆ្នាំចុងក្រោយមុនការត្រលប់របស់អ៊ុយលីស កំលាំងពលំបានបោះបង់ចោលរាងកាយដ៏ស្គម កំព្រឺងរបស់វា ហើយអ្នកបំរើក្នុងវាំងអ៊ីតាកក៏លែងនឹកនាដាក់បាយអោយវាស៊ីទៀតដែរ។

អាកូសរស់នៅដូចអ្នកសំុទាន រូបរាងឡើងសល់តែស្បែកដណ្តប់ឆ្អឹង ចៃ ដំបៅ អង្កែរពេញខ្លួន ដេកលែងចង់ក្រោយ។ សូម្បីតែរុយទំក៏លែងបក់ដែរ។ បើទោះបីជាយ៉ាងនេះក្តីអាកូសហាក់បីដូចទ្រាំរស់ដើម្បីចង់ជួបម្ចាស់ខ្លួន(អ៊ុយលីស)លើកចុងក្រោយ។កំលាំងនេះបានធ្វើអោយអាកូសខំប្រឹងរស់យ៉ាងត្រដាបត្រដួស។វាដេកអស់សង្ឃឹមរង់ចាំតែថ្ងៃស្លាប់តែប៉ុននោះ។ ប៉ុន្តែដោយសារក្តីសង្ឃឹមចង់ជួបមុខម្ចាស់វាក៏ខំប្រយុទ្ធនឹងមច្ចុរាជដែលតែងតែចង់មកយកជិវិតវារាល់ថ្ងៃ។

អស្ចារ្យ! បើទោះបីជាទុរន់ទុរាយ៉ាងណាក៏ដោយ គ្រាន់តែលឺសម្លេងម្ចាស់ វាខំប្រឹងស្តាប់ឥតច្រលំ ហើយខំងើយមើលមុខម្ចាស់វា។ វាចំណាំម្ចាស់វាយ៉ាងច្បាស់។ អាកូសខំប្រឹងបក់កន្ទុយរវិច ហើយខំប្រឹងងើបយ៉ាងត្រដាបត្រដួសដើម្បីទៅទទួលម្ចាស់វា។

ទោះបីជាបែកអាកូសជិតម្ភៃឆ្នាំ ក៏អ៊ុយលីសនៅចំនាំអាកូសដែរ។ អ៊ុយលីសខំប្រឹងសម្លឹងមុខវាដោយហូរទឹកភ្នែក ហើយនិយាយថ  ” អាកូស មានតែអែងប៉ុននោះដែលនៅចំនាំម្ចាស់អែងឥតច្រលំ។ តើអែងរស់នៅចាំទទួលអញឫមិនមែន?”

អាកូសខំប្រឹងប្រមូលកំលាំងចុងក្រោយដើម្បីសម្លឹងមើលមុខម្ចាស់ដែលវាបានរង់ចាំអស់ជិតម្ភៃឆ្នាំ ហើយក៏បិទភ្នែកស្លាប់ក្បែរជើងម្ចាស់វា។

រឿងរបស់អាកូសជារឿងទីពីរដែលខ្ញុំបានអានបន្ទាប់ពីរឿង ហាជីកូ៕

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10 Signs of Cognitive Distortion

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Almost everyone used to face or is facing the depression. It is hidden. It manipulates the ways that we see things. Dr. David said in his books titled Feeling Good: the new mood therapy, published in 1980 said that depression could kill you. The  rate of committing suicide caused by depression are at at concerning level. According to website suicide.org stated that a million people die by suicide every year and the suicide rate is 16 per 100000 population. Here are 10 signs of depression:

ALL-or Nothing Thinking: You see thing the black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself of total failure.

OVERGENERALIZATION: You see a single negatives even as a never-ending pattern of defeat.

MENTAL FAILURE: You pick a sing negative detail and dwell on it exclusively you that your vision of all reality become darkened like a drop of ink that colors the beaker of water.

DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE: You reject positive experiences by insisting that they don’t count for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain negative believe that is contradicted your everyday experiences.

JUMP INTO CONCLUSIONS: You make a negative interpretation; even though, there is no definite fact that convincingly support your conclusion.

EMOTIONAL REASONING: You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the ways things really are.

MAGNIFICATION: You exaggerate the important of things or your inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny.

SHOULD STATEMENTS: You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punish before you could be expected to do anythings. The emotional consequences is quilt. When you direct should statement toward others, you feel frustration, anger and resentment.

LABELING AND MISLEADING: This is the extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself.

PROFESSIONALIZATION:  You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which in fact your are not primarily responsible for this.

Depression is preventable!

For the next article, I am going to write the solutions, and how to rate at your depression level.

I would suggest two books that I’ve read so far, Stop worrying and start living and Feeling good: the new mood therapy. If you have no one to consult with, they are your best mates that could give you a lot advice and tips to deal with depression and worries mood.

Burns.D. 1980. Feeling good. the new mood therapy.United State of America

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The Decision Book: Models for Strategic Thinking

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It took me around one hour to walk around the bookstore before I decided to buy a book. A moment I walked along the aisle of bookshelf I found the series of books co-written by Mikael Krogerus and Roman Tschapperler. The Decision Book was the first publication of their series which consists of 8 books. Among them only the The Decision Book won the International Best Seller and I decided to buy it.

I’ve spent two weeks to complete this this books. Flipping from one page to another page, I was provided the profound messages with an easy and straightly explanation accompanied by graphics. This books provides instructions how to use this book and why should you read this book. This book is described by only six words – Simplify, Pragmatic, Sum up, Visual, Organize and Methods.

The Decision Book divides into four parts – How to improve yourself; How to understand yourself better; How to understand others better and How to improve other? The authors organized section chronologically ranging from self-organized to serving others.

This book was written in way that reader feel easy to understand. Sometimes  it makes the reader lost over the graphic explained. This book provides reader over 50 graphics which allow reader to have choices to work out on graphic which is applicable to their situations.

We make decisions every day. When it is overloaded, you will be easy getting fool in the juggle of problems. What we need is to structure them and to see through or get overview about them. Once our problems are structured, it is enable us to the solutions or to reduce the complexity of the situations.

I don’t say this book is perfectly written that allows us to deal with every situation that we are facing; however, it is a guiding light that help to pave our way and reduce the complexities of situations. And we should use other books and experiences to back up our model graphic in order to support our decision. It’s just a short review over this book.

I am going to write a review on the section of how to improve to yourself in the next post and provide some graphic which I believe it will help to get through some tough situation.

QUIET: When should act more extroverted than who you really are?

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I’ve skipped two parts of this book: Your Biology and Your Self? And Do All Cultures has Extrovert Idea? It is not strange that I skipped to part four. I’ll tell you what part four is talking about. But Firstly, I would like to acknowledge the author of this book Susan Cain who has spent years to work on this book. Quiet became the Sunday Times Bestseller and New York Time Bestseller. It was translated into over thirty languages. I wish this book was translated into Khmer language too.

“How to work and How to Love” is the title of part four. You may know why I skipped two parts of this to this part. One more thing, this part is somehow related to me. But this part distinguishes into many different sectors. I pick up only one section to write a review. And I am going to write about “When should act more extroverted than who you really are?”.

“When should you act more extroverted than who you really are?” author explains by raising case studies of two well-known figures Prof. Brian Little, former Harvard University psychology professor and Alex, a social adept head of financial services company. Professor Little was described as comedian. He always make joke to please his audiences. While in the class, his students described him as a standing ovation.

Alex is the one who described himself as mentally shy and sweet kid.

Both Prof. Little and Alex is a pretend-extroversion guy. They were wearing a mask of extrovert in public. What described them is completely different when we are going in depth into their personal life. Prof. Little lives with his wife in the remote area in Canada. He always spends his free time scoring the music, reading and writing books and emailing to his friends. Alex said he could literally go years without any friends except his kids and wife. He thought he was the same person who he was always was. He is massively shy, but compensate for it.

The questions were raised. How do they overcome the crowd and how they can cheer the public as if they are the extroverts? How can they lead the crowd? These are the surprised questions that audiences want to know how the introverts integrate themselves into the crowd while the characteristic is always quiets, shy and unsocialized.

The “Free Trait Theory” was developed to answer to these questions.

According to the theory people are born and culturally endowed with certain personality traits, but we can do out of character in the service of “core personal projects”. In other words, introverts are capable to act like extroverts for the sake of work they consider they are important, people they love, and many thing they highly value.

The free trait theory was applied to many different contexts, but specifically applicable to the introverts living under extroverts ideal.

Prof. Little was quoted as saying that “our life are dramatically enhanced when we are involved in core personal projects that we consider meaningful, manageable and not unduly stressful and that are supported by others.”

Reaching to this point you may be doubtful how can you identify your “core personal projects” that could lead you to act out of  your character? In order to find the answer you have to answer to these three questions. First of all, think back to what you do love to do when you are a child? Secondly, paying attention to the works that you gravitate to? And thirdly, pay attention to what you envy.

After answering these three questions, as an introvert you will find out what is your core personal projects that could lead to act as if you are the extroverts.

Authors explains that even when introverts could find their personal projects, they do not want to act it too much or too long. However, there is a solution for introverts who standout of character for so long. For instance, like Prof. Little who is an expert of pretending-extrovert always make a restroom in between his speech. It is the best to stay true to self. This call “Restorative Niche”. This term is referring to place where you go when you want to return to your true self. It can be a physical or mental places where you can find your true self. Why do the introverts need “Restorative Niche”? The answer is very short. While the introverts act out of character for so long it could be hazardous to their life psychologist said. The “Restorative Niche” is the best where introverts could find their true self while they are faking for so long.

That is it! However, I am one among the introverts. I think this article at least help you to explore yourself more. Being an introverts does not mean, you are a negative person. It is your character that you are always quiet. As long as you could figure out the core personal projects you will know who/what is worth to fight for.

Go to the book “Quiet” for more details.

5 Experiences Turned Startbucks to be Extraordinary

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When I was in Jogjakarta in April, last year, I had encountered two types of the amazing coffee that I wished to taste it for long time. The first one is Lovak Coffee, the best premium coffee on earth and the second one is the Starbucks.

After drinking Starbucks, I always search for books which is written about the Starbucks’ business. Last month, I bought a book called ” 5 Experiences Turn Startbucks to be Extraodinary” at a local bookstore in Phnom Penh. It is not easy to look for international books in Phnom Penh. I were about to order this book from ebay, luckily it was exist locally.

I’ve spent two weeks to complete this whole books. Each pages, author describes how Starbucks staffs treat their costumers. For instance, the article that I excerpted from the this book in my previous post narrated about a local Starbucks’ staff made a commitment to make a serious face man to be a smiling face one. As result that staffs received a bunch of flowers from the serious face man when she moved to another Starbucks branch.

I don’t how many coffee shop’s owners in Cambodia, read this book and apply all these theories, but I believed that applicable to all coffee shops. I regularly spend my weekend at coffee shop such Brown, Costar, Gloria Jean. Their services are acceptable, but not satisfied enough. It is just my feeling.

After reading this books, I encourage the business owner especially for those who provides services to costumers should read this book. It provides a lot of good example which you can adopt to your services.

Hey! I am not an experts in Business, but I am a books geek. I just want to share a little knowledge of what i have encountered in the book to you.  But I believe that this book really help you.

” Miss a meal if you have to, but don’t miss a book” said Jim Rohn, American entrepreneur and motivator. 🙂 🙂

 

 

 

Susan and Grumpy Man

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Where the article quoted from.

The case studies of STARBUCKS always touch my heart. This is a way that Starbucks’ staff treat their costumers.

[….] When staff members execute detail consistently they are often rewarded by unexpected appreciation from costumer.

Barista Susan is about moving to another store. While working at the old store, Susan had made a commitment to try  to get a particular customer who could be best describe as a grumpy guy to smile.

It might seem like a little things, but to Susan it was important. Susan said ” I don’t know what is going on with that man’s life, but I am going to make him happy”.

Susan would always connect and have a smile on her face, but he never smile or showed any joy in response to her efforts.

On the day that Susan leaving her old store, that man heard that it was her last day. He came back before her shift was over and brought her flowers and card.

The words on the card was so touching “I just want you to know how much it’s meant for me to come into your store everyday. I want you to know that i came in here specifically to see your smile and you made a difference in my life”.

Michelli, A.J.(2007).The Starbucks experience: 5 Principles for Turning Ordinary into Extraordinary. McGraw-Hill. New York. Page 76

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Susan moved to another store. Grumpy man, I don’t know where he was going, but i think, he was still at the old Starbucks store where Susan used to work. hahaha

 

 

Review: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living(by Dale Carnergie)

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“Every books I have read is related to my personality”.

It was very coincident of having this book with me. A moment I walked on the aisle of bookshelf, its big title caught my eyes. I stopped for a while to scan through it. Afterwards, I was reading the name of author. It was written ” Dale Carnegie”. I was familiar with his name previously, since my friend bought his book from Indonesia and suggested everyone should own it. Then I decided to buy it. I bought the original one too, and the price is cheaper than my friend’s book. Hahaha, he was jealous me a lot, but it was his privilege to own before everyone.

Linking to the previous article, I have mentioned that I was in depression when my first love has been rejected. I am not going to detail how we both break up. During the depression, I always brought this book “How to stop worrying and start living” with me everyday and everywhere.

In this article, I supposed that the terms “Depression” and “Worry” were close to each other. However, psychologically, these two are completely different. Somehow, they are inter-related.

I read every single page thoroughly. Every single words and antidotes in this book has blown me away. The more I pay much attention to his descriptions, I more my depression has been fade out.

The author of this book, Mr. Dale Carnergies mentioned book that his book did not provide any new rules to stop worrying. He gave simple advises which everyone knows it but never practice it.

In his books “How to stop worrying and start living”, Dale Carnergie provided a guideline to get most out of this book. I would not describe it. I want you to discover by yourself. It is worthy.

From one chapter to one chapter, I’ve found simple ways to stop worrying or depression. If the chapter is not applicable to me, I’ve just scanned through it. Almost all chapter is applicable to me. It provides tricks which i can see myself from apart from the problems. It is called “solution”.​ This rule is called “If you have a lemon, make a lemonade”.

Applying this rule, I have turn the breaking up of relationship into an inspiring tool. During that time i have spent a lot time for reading, reading reading and buying books. When I spent time reading, even in a very depressed situation, sooner that feeling faded away.

“Keep myself busy” is a very easy rule to apply. It is effective to reduce worry. When you keep yourself busy, you have no time to think useless issues. I believe in it. That is why I tried to make some appointments with my friend to have a talk. I went to bookstore. I went jogging. I was reading book. I was cooking etc. I was writing or blogging. Those activities really helped me to forget I what i was worried about.

“Write down what makes you worry” is little bit hard for those who does not like writing. This way will help you to realize what make you worry.

“Tell your worries to God” It is a little religious. But I believe in it. When you tell your worry to the one your trust and tell it out loud, you will find yourself heal. I usually go to pagoda. I bring flowers, incenses, candles to dedicate to Buddha. I told my story to Buddha. I did not think he could hear what i was telling him, but I feel relief. That is it.

There are many great theories left. These four rules are applicable to me and help me a lot.

I’ve shared you how this book benefit to me. It is a highly recommended book. Form your habit of reading now. It might not be useful when you are reading, but in the future, it exactly be helpful.

“Tension is a habit. Relaxing is a habit. And bad habit can be broken, good habits formed”