CLOSING 2015: A Message from a prominent lyricist and novelist Paulo

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?
You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.

You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.
Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.

Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.

Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”

Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

Paulo Coelho, a  Brazilian lyricist and novelist

The Pathway of Roses

There is abundance of hope in the world, but what we need is more faith. Everybody is hoping for better things; the poor hope to get rich, the sick hope to get well, the sad hope to gain happiness, the troubled hope to find peace, everybody is hoping for something.

When we are in bondage, or keenly realize our bondage, we hope that great deliverer will come; we pray that he may come, we hope that our our prayers will be answered and we are so absorbed in our hopes that we fail to hear him knocking the door even now.

To have hope is to face the door, but hope stands still; it never moves toward the door. To live in the hope is simply to face the great goal, but we may continue to face that great gaol for ages, and never move forward a step. To live in hope is to die in despair, because remains stationary, it never gain what it hope to gain.

But when faith begins, we remain stationary no more. We press on directly and with power toward the coveted, our hope are soon realized; our desire are granted; what we wish for for is withheld no more, through faith we have entered that world where every prayer is answer and every wish made true.
Christain D. Larson

Life is too short!

Dr. Richard Carlson(1961-2006)
Dr. Richard Carlson(1961-2006)

Live This Day as if it Were Your Last. It Might be.

When are you going to die? In fifty years, twenty, ten, five, today? Last time I checked, no one told me. I often wonder, when listening to the news, did the person who died in the auto accident on his way home from work remember to tell his family how much he loved them? Did he live well? Did he love well? Perhaps the only thing that is certain is that he still had things in his “in basket” that  weren’t yet done.

The truth is, none of us has any idea how long we have to live. Sadly, however, we act as if we’re going to live forever. We postpone the things that, deep down, we know we want to do- telling the people we love how much we care, spending time alone, visiting a good friend, taking the beautiful hike, running a marathon, writing a heartfelt letter, going fishing with your daughter, learning to meditate, becoming a better listener, and on and on. We come up with elaborate and sophisticated rationales to justify our action, and end up spending most of our time and energy doing things that aren’t all that important. We argue for our limitations, and they become our limitations.

I felt it appropriate to end this book by suggesting that you live your life each day as if it were your last on this earth. I suggest this not as a prescription to be reckless or to abandon your responsibilities, but to remind you of how precious life really is. A friend of mind once said “life is too important fo take to seriously.” Ten year later I know he was right. I hope that this book has been, and will continue to be, helpful to you. Please don’t forget to the most basic strategy of all, Don’t sweat the small stuff! I well end this book by sincerely saying that I wish you well.

Treasure your life

Carlson, R. 1998. Don’t sweat over the small stuff: Simple ways to keep the little things from overtaking your life. Great Britain. Hooder & Stoughton

Do Something Nice for Someone Else – and Don’t Tell Anyone About It

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Recently, I feel really frustrating over these stuffs: family, love, work, money, friendship etc. A moment when I have no one to consult with, I never forget to bring the books with me. It always gives a good suggestions. “មានសៀវភៅជាមិត្ត ដូចមានបណ្ឌិតជាគ្នា”​; however sometimes i prefer to have someone that i could talk to.

Let me share you one article which is extracted from this book(Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff). It could be guiding light for you and me. Enjoy!

“While many of us do nice things for others, we are almost certain to mention our acts of kindness to some else, secretly seeking their approval.

When we share our own niceness or generosity whit someone else, it make us feel like we are thoughtful people, it reminds us of how nice we are and how deserving we are of kindness.

While all acts of kindness are inherently wonderful, there is something even more magical about doing something thoughtful but mentioning it to no one, ever. You always feel good when give to others. Rather than diluting the positive feelings by telling others about our own kindness, by keeping it to yourself you get to retain all the positive feelings.

It’s really true that one should give for sake of giving, not to receive something in return. This is precisely what you are doing when you don’t mention your kindness to others. Your rewards are the warm feeling that comes from the act of giving. The next time you do something really nice for someone else, keep it to yourself and revel in the abundant joy of giving”.

Carlson, R. 1998. Don’t sweat over the small stuff: Simple ways to keep the little things from overtaking your life. Great Britain. Hooder & Stoughton