ខ្ញុំបានចំនាយពេលរយៈពីរយប់ (បើគិតជាម៉ោងប្រហែលជា១០ម៉ោង) ដើម្បីអានរឿង អ៊ុយលីសវិលវិញ។ រឿងនេះគឺជារឿងរបៀបផ្សងព្រេង របស់តួអង្គអ៊ុយលីសដែលជាតួអង្គមេទ័ពដ៏អង់អាច។ អ៊ុយលីសបានប្រយុទ្ធជាមនុស្សផង យក្សផង អាទិទេពផង ខ្មោចបិសាចផង ទេពអប្សរផងធ្វើយ៉ាងណាអោយតែបានត្រលប់ទៅដល់កោះអ៊ីតាកដែលជាដែនដីកំនើតរបស់ខ្លួនវិញ។ បន្ទាប់ពីច្បាំងឈ្នះក្រុងត្រ័រ និងនាំយកនាងហេលេនមកប្រគល់ជូនស្តេចត្រាមេឡេណាសនៃក្រុងឡាដេសេមន អ៊ុយលីសបានវង្វេងតែលតោលលើសមុទ្រប្រហែលជាជិតម្ភៃឆ្នាំទម្រាំបានមកកោះដល់អ៊ីតាក និងជួបជាមួយពេនេឡុបដែលជាភរិយា និងកូនរបស់គាត់តេឡាម៉ាក។
ដំនើរជិវិតរបស់គាត់ជិតម្ភៃឆ្នាំនៅសមុទ្រ ពិតជាប្រឈមមុខគ្រប់បែបយ៉ាង។ អ៊ុយលីសមានទេព្តាមួយអង្គឈ្មោះអាតេណា ដែលជាកូនស្រីសំណព្វរបស់អាទិទេពស្ហឹសដែលជាអាទិទេពគ្រប់គ្រងអ្វីៗទាំងអស់ តាមថែរក្សា។ បើទោះបីជាអ៊ុយលីសតែងតែងមានទេព្តាអាតេណាតាមជួយក៏ដោយគាត់មិនដែលរំពឹងអ្វីពីអាទិទេពនោះ។ គាត់ជឿជាក់ទៅភាពអង់អាច មុះមុត និងការមិនបោះបង់របស់គាត់។
បើទោះបីជាសាច់រឿងមានភាពប្រទាក់ក្រឡាគ្នាជាមួយអាទិទេព ខ្មោចព្រាយបីសាច នឹងការប្រយុទ្ធដ៏អស្ចារ្យរបស់អ៊ុយលីសជាមួយតួអង្គយក្ស ក៏ខ្ញុំចាប់អារម្មណ៍ជាងគេគឺភាពស្មោះត្រង់របស់អាកូសដែលសត្វឆ្កែសម្លាញ់មួយក្បាល និងក៏ជាមិត្តភក្តិរបស់អ៊ុយលីសផង។
កាលពីម្ភៃឆ្នាំមុនអ៊ុយលីសចេញធ្វើសង្រ្គាមនៅត្រ័រ កូសគ្រាន់តែកូនឆ្កែមួយរបស់អ៊ុយលីសដែលតែងដើរតាមអ៊ុយលីសទៅប្រម៉ាញ់ជាញឹកញយនៅលើដែនដីអ៊ីតាក។ ចាប់តាំងពីអ៊ុយលីសចេញទៅសង្រ្គាម អាកូសវាចាប់ផ្តើមមានអារម្មណ៍ថាបាត់បង់អ្វីម្យ៉ាង។ នៅរយៈពេលប៉ុន្មានឆ្នាំចុងក្រោយមុនការត្រលប់របស់អ៊ុយលីស កំលាំងពលំបានបោះបង់ចោលរាងកាយដ៏ស្គម កំព្រឺងរបស់វា ហើយអ្នកបំរើក្នុងវាំងអ៊ីតាកក៏លែងនឹកនាដាក់បាយអោយវាស៊ីទៀតដែរ។
អាកូសរស់នៅដូចអ្នកសំុទាន រូបរាងឡើងសល់តែស្បែកដណ្តប់ឆ្អឹង ចៃ ដំបៅ អង្កែរពេញខ្លួន ដេកលែងចង់ក្រោយ។ សូម្បីតែរុយទំក៏លែងបក់ដែរ។ បើទោះបីជាយ៉ាងនេះក្តីអាកូសហាក់បីដូចទ្រាំរស់ដើម្បីចង់ជួបម្ចាស់ខ្លួន(អ៊ុយលីស)លើកចុងក្រោយ។កំលាំងនេះបានធ្វើអោយអាកូសខំប្រឹងរស់យ៉ាងត្រដាបត្រដួស។វាដេកអស់សង្ឃឹមរង់ចាំតែថ្ងៃស្លាប់តែប៉ុននោះ។ ប៉ុន្តែដោយសារក្តីសង្ឃឹមចង់ជួបមុខម្ចាស់វាក៏ខំប្រយុទ្ធនឹងមច្ចុរាជដែលតែងតែចង់មកយកជិវិតវារាល់ថ្ងៃ។
អស្ចារ្យ! បើទោះបីជាទុរន់ទុរាយ៉ាងណាក៏ដោយ គ្រាន់តែលឺសម្លេងម្ចាស់ វាខំប្រឹងស្តាប់ឥតច្រលំ ហើយខំងើយមើលមុខម្ចាស់វា។ វាចំណាំម្ចាស់វាយ៉ាងច្បាស់។ អាកូសខំប្រឹងបក់កន្ទុយរវិច ហើយខំប្រឹងងើបយ៉ាងត្រដាបត្រដួសដើម្បីទៅទទួលម្ចាស់វា។
ទោះបីជាបែកអាកូសជិតម្ភៃឆ្នាំ ក៏អ៊ុយលីសនៅចំនាំអាកូសដែរ។ អ៊ុយលីសខំប្រឹងសម្លឹងមុខវាដោយហូរទឹកភ្នែក ហើយនិយាយថ ” អាកូស មានតែអែងប៉ុននោះដែលនៅចំនាំម្ចាស់អែងឥតច្រលំ។ តើអែងរស់នៅចាំទទួលអញឫមិនមែន?”
My two short videos for Safe City for Women Cambodia about SAFE SEX and CONSENSUAL SEX
Chroy Svay commune is approximately 140 kilometer away from down town of Koh Khong where it is hardly accessible to mobile phone service and internet services. However, the raising trend of smart phone and social media keep youths in Chroy Svay commune, feeling curious and intensify the passion of accessing to it.
Ran Kim, a young house wife of 25 year-old used Facebook for two years. As a head of youth group focusing on health said that social media especially Facebook, helped her a lot to mobilize youth in her community and sharing the result of the meeting.
She said “I spend only two days to mobilize our member for meeting by using Facebook; whereas I spent almost a week to inform them individually about meeting in the last two year”.
As information technology keeps broadening their coverage globally, rural community like Chroy Svay also effects from this widespread. The residents started owning smartphone which is partially accessible to internet. Villagers said they could only access to only two mobile operators Smart and Metfone while the rest the signal is too weak to connect.
And likewise Ran Kim, Yen Nu, Nhom Boyi, Chann Kimcheng and Khun Nay, are using social media for mobilizing, accessing to information (weather forecast, fisheries prices, accident, crimes etc), sharing local issues and communicating with local authority (reporting crime, community development, sharing information to provincial level).
Yen Nu, 21 years old and fisherman in Chroy Svay, start using smartphone and social media about one year and a half ago. And he usually used it for sharing information with his friends about the price and yield of their fishery products and sharing about illegal fishing in his community. He said “I usually get information about weather forecast such storm, flood faster than TV and radio for one day. It really helps me a lot for me to go fishing in the sea and avoid the troubles from bad weather”.
He added that his friends usually share with him about result of their fishing and sometimes about the prices.
Chroy Svay commune is a resident of 1064 families. And 2546 local residents are up from 18 years old.
Prom Norn, Chroy Svay’s commune chief, observed that the number of people using smartphone and social media in is his commune keeps increasing.
He estimated that around 10 percent of total population access to smart phone especially the youths. They could buy one smartphone for around 100 USD or lesser than this.
He added that even he did not use the smart phone right now; his colleagues usually showed him the update information about crimes, illegal fishing, and traffic accidents. And sometimes the youth group showed him what had happened in the commune too.
More importantly, youths in the commune has transformed themselves by technology to be a citizen journalist for community through training providing by ActionAid Cambodia on project” Voice Up for Rights to Food Security”.
Chan Kimcheng, a well-known citizen journalist in Chroy Svay commune has used smartphone and social inform the public about the development in her community and used as an educational tools.
She said “I have used “Facebook” as a tool to disseminate community’s information and livelihood activities such as the gathering to discuss about Rights to Education, Mangrove plantation to increase fish breeding zone, Canal Rehabilitation and other psychosocial educational activities to eliminate domestic violence, etc. People in Chrouy Svay community are excited about my role as CJ”.
She added that hence, the more citizen journalist to promote our community on social media, the sooner the public knows our community. Hopefully through this information sharing, we will be able to attract as many developmental organizations as possible to collaboratively develop Chrouy Svay community.
Not only youths who claimed the benefits of social media, but also a housewife admitted its benefits too.
Bun Rat, 4o years, a house wife with 3 children, is using a Samsung Galaxy A4 and could access to Facebook. She said that “Facebook can keep my relative working in Thailand in contact. I can see their activities and Photos on Facebook”.
Prom Norn, the commune chief said he is going to buy new smart soon. He added “it will save me a lot times to send documents and information to districts or provincial department”.
One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.
Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?
You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.
You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.
Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.
Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.
That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.
Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.
Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.
Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”
Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.
Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.
Paulo Coelho, a Brazilian lyricist and novelist
My video produce for ActionAid Cambodia about the annual reviews for Building Resilent Communities in Cambodia II. I start addicted to video and photo work right now. Still need to learn more.